Lessons learned from Puffin, the cat

My children were toddlers at play when we heard kittens mewing. That was when we found Puffin, Muffin and their brother. Muffin and the third cat were adopted, but Puffin stuck around. When we tore down our old home and erected a new structure, Puffin lit out for the wild and didn't return for years. Her timing was remarkable; she showed up just when our puppy, KJ, arrived home. She would come and go, but about three years ago, Puffin decided to settle in for good. She would take turns sleeping with the girls and with me and Joe. She had her spot on the couch, and always shared my glass of water in the evening. Generally, if our family went away on vacation and left a pet sitter in charge, Puffin would run away and return only after she was certain we were home. Only Beth Goldin of Whimsical Pet in Huntington, New York [www.whimiscalpet.com], was able to develop a relationship with this kitty.

A few weeks ago, Puffin ran outside as we were leaving for our Columbus Day weekend adventure - see Ode to a Warhorse for the story of our MDX. Ordinarily, this would not have been cause for concern. Among cats, Puffy was of the indoor/outdoor variety and quite capable of fending for herself. However, when she finally showed up at our home on Wednesday, Puffin could barely stand up. In the past week and a half, Puffin was twice hospitalized. After her last stay, she came home and was eating voraciously. Within 12 hours, however, Puffin's hind quarters were paralyzed and fluid gathered in her abdomen.

Just two days ago, the vet and I discussed euthanizing Puffin. The cat was alert and didn't seem uncomfortable. I discussed the decision with my husband and children. No one - especially me - felt comfortable ending our cat's life. She was interacting and affectionate. I am not G-d, and didn't feel that I had the right to decide whether a creature lived or not. Today, however, nature ran its course; Puffin, died comfortably at home this afternoon.

Many say that cats only give you affection in exchange for food, but in these last days, Puffin truly seemed to appreciate the comfort of being held and stroked these past few days. Puffin taught our children about engaging in frank discussions about end-of-life decisions. She taught them that death is a natural part of life, and that permitting someone to die a natural death can be peaceful. Puffin's body was donated to our vet, who will use her body to gain clinical knowledge. There are many things I will miss about our cat, but I can rest easily, knowing that everything passed in a manner ordered by nature.